One year ago yesterday I loaded up my car and left my ex husband. I am so grateful for the people in my life that encouraged me to leave, and also made it easier for me. I am truly happy with the way my life has played out. I never imagined a world where I could sit happily alone and write. It sounds silly, but life is a funny thing.
As most of you know from previous articles, I grew up in a household where I did not feel wanted. I had a hard time adapting to having an angry step mother. When I married my ex I was the same. I felt lost and alone. I had pushed myself away from all of my friends and family hoping that it would work. I had been alone so long all I wanted was to be married and loved. It was like I was drowning in a mess that I had created on my own.
Each and every one of us are built to love someone or something, it’s human nature. I wanted so badly for some person to accept me. I wanted it so badly that I was willing to throw myself in the garbage to become a person I didn’t even like. I am so happy to be able to truly be myself again. I cannot tell you how amazing I feel to be independent and in charge of my own life. This is the first time that I have felt heard, loved, and accepted. If you are in a relationship where you are feeling trapped or unhappy, my advice is to leave. Get out now before you find another excuse to stay.
Why would you spend more time pretending to be happy and content, when you could be using this time as self discovery? You have every right to discover yourself and the world around you, and it’s time to move on. This new year is yours for the taking. You spend the next 12 finding out what you want and not what everyone else wants for you. I was lucky enough to leave my marriage early on. I know personally that there are many of you who stay wrapped up in a dead marriage because you feel like that is what you’re “supposed” to do. Who decided that this was the right path for you? It certainly wasn’t you, or you’d be happy. Stop following orders and take care of yourself and your own life. You deserve to be happy and not to feel alone and rejected.
I feel like we live in an era where young people are beginning to think and speak for themselves, and it is beautiful. I am so excited to see where this crazy journey will take each and everyone of you. Please consider asking yourself the following questions:
Am I happy?
Am I being controlled or held back?
What will help me to discover myself?
How do I get there?
I feel that it is very important for you to evaluate your life from time to time. If you never take a step back and glance at where you are you’ll miss the ride. You should never sacrifice yourself and your own mental well being to satisfy the needs of someone who could be harming you. If you have something you need advice on or you’d like to voice your opinions please refer to our Hipster University Abuse Group. Here you will find loads of like minded individuals who are more than happy to share their own experiences with you and will gladly listen to your side of the story.
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